Once you are pregnant, the great big world just begins to swirl because suddenly life is not about you, it is about the TWO of you or the three of you, depending on your personal living situation. With the announcement of a soon-to-be baby, you will generally find a baby shower invite, but trust me, the planning that goes into every baby shower is it’s own feat. In fact there is a thing known as Baby Shower Etiquette: The Do’s and Don’ts of Baby Showers, and I would love to share the tips and tricks of Baby Shower Etiquette because there are so many do’s and don’ts of baby showers and it is necessary to help you plan that first baby shower or attend one.
Remember, the baby shower you are about to throw is not about you, and what you wanted or might have missed out on but what the MOM TO BE wants and she is the host.
Lavishly live the world of planning a party out loud or attending one, as I share with you Baby Shower Etiquette: The Do’s and Don’ts.
A successful baby shower is one that has the Mom-To-Be smiling when the guests leave and 99% of the guests not talking about the host or the planners, remember we are never gonna satisfy all of those guests, so let’s shoot for 99% perfection, lol.
Are you planning the baby shower and it is your first? Get a sheet of paper and start listing things you think you will need to plan this party from people to paper products, that will just let you calm down about the planning.
Now let’s really take a look at some of the do’s and don’ts of baby shower planning and let’s start with the DO’S of planning a shower, so we start out with a most positive and supportive set of thoughts!
Baby Shower Dos and Don’ts
Whether you offered or have been approached to host the baby shower of a soon-to-be new mom, planning a baby shower is no small feat. With this guide to the proper dos and don’ts of the occasion, you’re sure to throw a shindig the new mom will be proud to call her shower.
Share in her joy and celebrate the anticipation of the coming bundle of joy. You read that right, SHARE in the joy, don’t side stage the Mom or the soon-to-be baby as this is their big day.
Make sure you check off everything on this list of essential do’s to ensure the party is a smashing success from planning to attending, Baby Showers are such fun.
Serve Finger Foods
You don’t need to plate a full-on lunch or dinner for your guests, and doing so will only cause you an undue amount of stress. Focus your foodie efforts on small, handheld finger foods that guests can enjoy while they mill about.
From mini sandwiches to deviled eggs, maybe even cupcakes or chocolate covered strawberries, find items that will easily meld on a plate of delectable snacks and won’t blow your budget out of the water.
This is your chance to really celebrate all of the delicious little foods you have been waiting to use, from cucumber sandwiches to roll-ups, it is time for an all-out party!
Don’t worry about getting caught up in the baking, or making, there are always those that offer, and let them bring the sweets because this allows these folks a way to feel more closely connected with the shower and the Momma.
If you are in need of a recipe here is a great Inverted Angel Food Cupcake that could definitely be offered with colorful Baby Shower Color Icing! It is also nice to have some of these great baked treats because guests LOVE to take them home and nibble on them later with their cup of coffee as they think about the great Baby Shower.
Remember, guests have food allergies as well, so if someone contacts you about a specific food allergy you should make provisions for a ‘generic’ food that they can eat and others will enjoy as well.
It would also be nice to ‘tag’ this food as “ALLERGEN FREE PLEASE USE ONLY UTENSILS PROVIDED TO TOUCH.”
Do Let Dad Take Part
While showers generally tend to be women-only, that tradition isn’t set in stone and many baby showers these days have become co-ed affairs. Make sure you ask the daddy-to-be whether he and his guy friends would like to participate.
The more the merrier, and he’s likely just as antsy with excitement as the mommy-to-be. You may also choose to extend the invite to kids so that the occasion can truly be a family affair.
This does differ from family to family and if you do have Dads and kids there, make sure the food reflects such guests as well so there is something for everyone and you DO right by all the guests, not just the ladies.
Also, just as a light reminder, you want to ask the Mom-To-Be if she wants the DAD involved in the shower or perhaps just for the gift opening, everyone has their personal preference and again this day is about celebrating the baby and the Mom.
Do Find the Perfect Present
If she has a registry, stick to that for solo presents. Mom’s mark what they need, there’s a reason she put what she did on the list, and you’d be wise to follow it. You may also consider banding together with a few other gals to create a group gift.
Do Work With Other Guests To Create The Perfect Collective Gift
One idea I love is a basket containing a collection of gifts that follow the “year of firsts” theme; with a new little one in the house, holidays are “reborn” in a way. As a group, put together a box filled with items that will help her commemorate each “first” with her new little one.
Items like a personalized blanket for her first Mother’s Day to a little Turkey outfit for the little one on Thanksgiving to a baby’s first stocking to hang on the mantle when Christmas rolls around. These are surely gifts she’ll never expect and one that keeps giving all year long.
Baby Shower Planning has many pitfalls, so don’t fall into the trap of the following shower planning mistakes. Remember, the day is about baby and Mom, and what they want and need, so try to stick to that thought and planning will be a success. Remember, it never hurts to discuss plans with the Mom-To-Be to make sure you are staying on course.
Don’t Take Over the Occasion
You might be planning the party, but it’s not for you, it’s for the mother-to-be. With this in mind, remember that you can take over the celebration planning and cater a shindig to your preferences.
Find out exactly how the mom-to-be wants things to go, and be prepared to receive input from her mother, grandmother, and other loved ones with a smile. Think about our weddings, we all had weddings the way we dreamed of, so now this is the same type of occasions and a time to celebrate MommyHood.
Don’t Do Surprises
You might have every good intention in the world, but surprising the mom-to-be is a definite no-no. Not only do mood swings run rampant, but you’ll also want to get her input on everything, as this is her special day, so make sure you talk to her about all of your plans.
Generally, baby showers are planned for two or three months before the due date, but some new parents prefer to wait until after the baby has already arrived. Once you know the preference you can go ahead and plan.
Don’t Forget to Thank Attendees
As the hostess, you need to thank the guests for being present, as lives and schedules are so busy. As the Mom, that is being ‘showered’ you also need to be ever the gracious host and make sure you thank all of the guests for attending and creating a special memory for you.
A great way to say thanks to your guests is to send guests away with sweet, inexpensive favors, like personalized M&Ms or mini champagne bottles to toast the impending arrival. When I saw these this just spurred me on to share with you because they are just so darn cute! This is really a sweet way to indulge your guests!
Another easy way to thank the guests is one that some gravely disagree on, but it is fine to do: have your guests address an envelope, which takes the stress off of the Mom-To-Be and makes it easy for her to send those thank you’s out. Some have the guests do this as they come in and sign the attendance book of who was there to share in the special day, while others leave envelopes in baskets at the table and have them fill them in at their own leisure.
Don’t Embarrass Her With The Wrong Entertainment
This is my favorite part of the party and of course, I created a printable for you to download, print off and use at your baby shower.baby-shower-printable
Think about the mom of honor and consider the guests that will be in attendance. Once you give this a bit of thought, then plan the entertainment. While you might think forcing attendees to lick melted chocolate in a diaper to simulate baby poo is hilarious, you may find the mommy-to-be has a very different stance. Another game to avoid?
Guessing the circumference of the guest of honor for obvious reasons. While this is the Don’ts section, a great game is always the Baby Shower Game of ‘What’s In Your Purse Game’? We have played this at so many showers and it is always fun and interesting!
There are plenty of fun options like this game, that won’t put anyone in an embarrassing spot and will definitely see everyone having a good time.
Celebrate the upcoming arrival of a little boy or girl with a wonderful baby shower soiree that the expectant mother and all of her loved ones can enjoy. It is easy to lavishly live Baby Shower Etiquette out loud and provide a very nice baby shower as long as you follow the do’s and don’ts you will have created a lasting, fun memory for the Mom-To-Be.