A hockey mom I am, and opinionated yes! While I am writing about hockey, my guess is my opinions, jaded as they may be, are probably applicable to any sport. The word pie hole used to crack me up, but it is true, the only thing a mouth is good for at a sporting event should be eating, pie or the like. The realization that 99% of the kids out there are not headed to play for the NHL would be a starting point, but keeping mouths tight would be better. A mouth untended is a mouth that ends up creating problems for others. I sit in the stands at both of my sons games and sometimes I drop in to spectate at other games that go on at our arena and all I can say is parents you are already benched, so keep your opinions to yourself! They sell food for a reason at the concession stands in the arenas. The purpose of food sales are to keep your lips too busy to criticize because they will be consuming soft pretzels rather than spewing obscenities at flying pucks and flying hockey sticks. Munch on popcorn rather than munching on your kid’s plays, it is not the NHL!
A coach, a rather astute figure in hockey, came into a meeting and put it rather bluntly for all those parents who think that their kids are NHL Bound… You are not! Let the kids play, just offer them the rides and support they need to make it to the games, but your job stops where the hockey arena curb starts! Your support in the benches is only as good as the words you choose ——–>>>>>so choose those words wisely and every one wins!
It’s 1/2 season for many teams and you have played several games now, but it is time for a brush up course on Hockey Stand Etiquette! Look at the crowd around you, there are kids in the stands and most hockey families don’t throw the ‘F’ word as part of regular their vocabulary! Even if the officiant sucks at making the calls, not all the calls can be made and it is up to the coach to argue it out not us. Our primary job as a parent is to support the kids no matter how bad the turn over or off-side play is. Cringe if you have to, hide your face, suck up the mistake and remember, it’s a game.
I have personally found that talking into my sleeves is very effective and if I am standing by the glass, talking into the glass is good as well. I will never criticize someone else’s kid, nor will I publicly lynch my child, it’s a game. I stood next to a hotshot dad(hockey mom talking) who thought his kid was THE player on the team last year, and he would stand by the glass, point, scream out, and just in general make an idiot of himself. His kid did not care what his dad was trying to tell him, he just played on the way he wanted to. The dad talked smack on his own kid so much that I wanted to administer a hockey puck mouth wash for him(that would have provided some free teeth swallowing!–hockey mom talking).
At one point have to admit I could not believe my kid missed the shot he missed and I cried out to my sleeve, “you gotta be kidding me”, and this fruit loop who had ripped his kid and everyone else on the team to shreds all year had the hockey pucks to say, ” I wonder if you are gonna feed your kid for that mistake, don’t pick on him, it’s just a shot!” I truly needed a hockey stick to wrangle this guy! Later I saw where the b.s. stemmed from, he played hockey back in the day and I think he forgot to check his shirt in at the door as he just did not get it, the game being played is not about us, it is about the kids! With that, I hockey banished him from my site and sat separate, knowing I would either have my own hockey checking game going on outside the ice or I could sit safely benched and quiet.
You can disagree or not, but the fact of the matter is, screaming at your kids for a play they did not make, does not make the play happen and hollering, “What the hockey puck#&$^&#$” only offends those children that are in the stands with parents that may not use your hockey mouth!