Marriage is an incredible communication obligation and a commitment beyond any other you will take on in life and celebrating the Renewal of Vows adds to that commitment you live out loud daily.
Marriage vows are renewed by so many around you perhaps you have been invited to a vow renewal ceremony. Do you wonder when you should renew your vows? Is five years too soon, is ten years too long? How many people should you invite or should you just renew your vows in private?
With marriage, there are all kinds of to-do lists available, but there are far fewer to-do lists for vow renewals. Most vow renewal services are done in the presence of friends and family, of course, you need to plan for the guests as well as reception fun.
I’ve taken some of the guesswork out of your preparation and thought I might share it with you so you can lavishly live your vow renewal out loud. Let’s take a look at Tips For Planning Marriage Vow Renewal.
Should We Renew? Tips For Marriage Vow Renewal
You see I am entering into many years of marriage and looking to see what all is involved so I thought I should just share this with you all!
Many couples choose to renew their vows as a testament to their growing and adapting a love for each other. If you’re looking to reaffirm and add onto the vows you made years back with the love of your life, let this guide you towards the perfect renewal ceremony. Then suddenly you have some hesitation and the question becomes, “Should We Renew?”
The reasons for hosting a vow renewal are plenty, and if you’re considering doing the same with your spouse, consider your motivations. Perhaps you had a big wedding that didn’t reflect your wants for an intimate affair, or maybe in the opposite fashion, you eloped and never got to celebrate the occasion with your loved ones.
Sometimes, a vow renewal is a way for couples who have been struggling to reaffirm their love and work towards reconnecting. Whatever the reason, choosing to recommit your life to your spouse is always a worthy cause and should be a day of celebration.
Your next question is timing, and are you rushing into a ‘too soon’ renewal?
When Is “Too Soon”?
The timeline for a vow renewal is different for every couple; there’s no rule that says you have to wait until the 25th anniversary or later. It is, however, a good idea to save renewals for special milestone years, like a 10 year anniversary.
As these vows are a testament to each other, feel free to plan them whenever you feel the urge—it’s an act about your love in the first place. Remember, today marriage is tougher than ever so celebrate your vow renewal when it feels right.
The Guest List
Remember your wedding and perhaps your parents planned it for your rather than you choosing those guests. Now it is your turn to plan the wedding guest list, except it is for renewal. Many choose to make their vow renewal a more intimate affair, inviting only their children, family members, and maybe close friends.
Some may even choose to forgo inviting guests at all, electing to make the vow renewal a special event for just the two of them. Depending on your aforementioned reasoning for holding your vow renewal, you and your spouse should decide how big you’d like the guest list to be—keep in mind, even if this isn’t a full-blown wedding, the more people, the more expensive the day is sure to be.
For the Ceremony
Remember, you are already married, so now it is easier than the actual marriage. Just pick the officiant of your vows. You can choose a judge or clergyman to go the more formal route or have your friend or child do the honors if you’re looking for a more intimate occasion.
The renewal of vows differs from weddings because you don’t need to be walked down the aisle—if anything, you and your spouse can walk together. Flowers are always appropriate no matter the occasion, so if you’re hankering for a bouquet, give in to the urge.
Some Reception Fun
If you do have guests in attendance, you can definitely make the night a celebration of love. Have fun little champagne bottles personalized with your names or initials from a place like I found on the internet.
I love when you don’t make it a traditional looking cake, maybe it is just me but maybe you could have a dessert table overflowing with tasty baked goods and order a fun, specialized cupcake to serve as your makeshift “wedding cake” at least this is what I found.
Your celebrations don’t have to be over the top or expensive, and you can have a great time without all the added stress that traditional wedding planning probably presented for you those years back.
The Don’ts of a vow renewal services are very easy: Don’t expect gifts, and Don’t create a registry. It’s in bad taste, and a vow renewal should be about LOVE not greed.
This is not to say, that if guests really want to do something to honor the occasion they will and if they ask you, perhaps you can request them to make a donation to your favorite charity to keep spreading the love on this special day. Gifts will shift the focus from what the day is really about—you and your spouse reaffirming your commitment and love.
It’s All About The Fashion ~
When trying to pick out clothes for your revamped nuptials, the sky really is the limit as it’s all about your personal taste. Maybe you’ll dig back into your closet and slip into your original wedding dress, or perhaps you’ll elect to try a cocktail dress that represents the fun celebrations of the occasion.
Cater your clothing to the theme of the affair. If it’s a beachside ceremony, flip-flops or bare feet will do just fine. If you’re going more formal inside of a church, you’ll want to dress up and that is easy because you already know your taste and theme!
If you and the love of your life would like to recommit your marriage, consider a vow renewal that will allow you and your family to celebrate the blessing that is love. Don’t forget about the photos
Are you ready to lavishly live your marriage out loud with a fun celebration to renew your vows? Have you already renewed your vows and have tips to share? We’d love to hear them, leave me some comments.